When life feels like a loop you can't escape, it's time to change the pattern.
Get your brain out of autopilot and back in charge.
Anytime. Anywhere.
You’ve been here before, staring at your to-do list, your phone, or the ceiling at midnight, wondering how you got caught in the same cycle again.
Maybe it’s the swirl of constant thoughts that won’t quiet down.
Maybe it’s the mornings that start with good intentions and end in overwhelm.
Maybe it’s that sinking feeling that no matter how much you plan, you keep ending up right back where you started, tired, reactive, disconnected from yourself.
You’re not broken. You’re just running patterns that kept you safe when life was too much.
Those patterns helped you survive. But now they’re keeping you stuck.
The good thing about patterns? They can be interrupted.
You can't think or do your way out of a loop.
For years, I taught leaders and teams how to fix organizational chaos. How to identify the loops that keep them stuck and break them for good.
Then I realized: the same thing happens in our personal lives.
Our brains build ruts. Habitual reactions, thought spirals, and emotional reflexes that keep us moving but not progressing. You can’t think or do your way out of those loops. You have to interrupt them.
That’s what the Pattern Interrupt Vault is for.
It’s your on-demand toolkit to stop the swirl in real time. When your brain starts spinning, you don’t have to spiral with it. You just open the vault, find your drawer, and follow the steps.
Because when you stop reacting automatically, you start responding intentionally.
And that’s where lasting, sustainable change begins.
The Pattern Interrupt Vault
Instant calm. Real tools. Lifetime access.
If you want to finally stop running the same mental loops…
If you want to get out of overwhelm before it consumes your day…
If you want a way to feel grounded again without adding more to your plate…
It all starts with the Pattern Interrupt Vault.
This isn’t another mindset course or productivity hack.
It’s a practical, science-backed vault of relief that helps you reset your nervous system, refocus your thoughts, and return to clarity — on demand.
When you open the Vault, you’ll remember what real control feels like. Not the kind that comes from holding everything together, but the kind that begins inside you.
You’ll learn to calm your mind before it runs away with you. Those thoughts that spiral and scatter? You’ll know how to meet them, interrupt them, and steer them back toward steady ground.
You’ll see that control isn’t about managing everything. It’s about reclaiming yourself. Because when you’re the one everyone leans on, it’s easy to forget that your own calm is worth protecting too.
You’ll stop living on autopilot. No more being swept along by the noise. You’ll start noticing the moments that matter and choosing how you respond.
You’ll find peace in the pause. Each tool in the Vault gives you permission to breathe, reflect, and respond from clarity, not chaos.
You’ll build a kind of strength that doesn’t shout. The quiet confidence that comes from knowing, truly knowing, you can trust yourself again.
How It Works
The Vault is organized in a simple, “If this, then that” format because when you’re caught in the swirl, you don’t need more decisions. You just need direction.
Each drawer holds a collection of tools and resources to choose from, tailored to meet your specific needs. Guided resets, quick prompts, reflection practices, and mini-audios that meet you right where you are.
Right now, the Vault includes over 35 tools and resources organized across 12 problem drawers, each one designed to help you calm chaos, regain clarity, and reconnect to yourself when it matters most.
You’ll find resources for moments like:
🌪 When you’re overwhelmed and can’t get your head straight
🌀 When you’re stuck in negative loops
⏳ When you don’t have time for yourself
💭 When you’ve lost sight of why you’re doing this
…and so many more.
The Vault keeps growing right alongside you. As I work with clients in Life Triage Calls and live Goalcations, I’m always refining and creating new tools. When something helps people find clarity faster or breathe easier, it goes straight into the Vault so everyone benefits.
It’s not a static library. It’s a living, evolving collection of pattern interrupts that adapts as real people use them and new insights emerge.
Every time you return, you’ll find something new to support the person you’re becoming.
Hi, I'm Dr. Mary Barnes.
I’ve spent more than twenty years helping people and organizations break free from burnout, chaos, and overcommitment.
But what I love most is helping people remember what it feels like to lead from calm, not pressure.
I built the Pattern Interrupt Vault because real change doesn’t happen once a year during a retreat or after a crisis.
It happens in the in-between moments when you notice you’re spiraling and choose to stop the pattern instead of feeding it.
This vault gives you the tools to do that, every single day.
Here's what you get when you open the vault:
Over 35 tools and resources across 12 problem drawers, each one designed to help you interrupt chaos and regain control in real time.
Guided prompts, audio resets, quick reflection exercises, and mini-practices that fit your real life; no apps, no extra overwhelm.
Lifetime access to everything inside, plus automatic updates whenever new tools are added.
Secure online access. Your calm, clarity, and reset tools are always one click away.
Your investment: $147 for lifetime access.
--or--
$74 when you add it to your Coffee Break Kickstart at checkout.
Less than one therapy session.
A lifetime of calm in your pocket.
Too busy to use it?
That’s exactly when you need it. Each tool takes just a few minutes; quick enough to use between calls or while sitting in your car.
Worried it’ll just collect digital dust?
Each tool is designed for micro-use. You don’t need to remember it. You’ll feel when you need it. The Vault becomes your go-to reset, not another thing on your list.
Already did the Coffee Break Kickstart?
Perfect. The Kickstart helped you pause; the Vault helps you stay steady.
You don’t need to wait for a breakdown to make a breakthrough.
You can interrupt the chaos before it takes over.
You can calm your system, reframe your thoughts, and realign with what truly matters in real-time.
That’s the power of the Pattern Interrupt Vault.
Because lasting change doesn’t come from willpower.
It comes from awareness, compassion, and the choice to pause.
Your future self will thank you.
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